Ever wonder what it is about strippers that makes men flock to them and adore them before they even begin the stripping process?
The secret is CONFIDENCE.
Okay, confidence isn’t something everyone has or knows how to utilize, but these five stripper-tips should help coax your Inner Stripper into making more regular appearances:
1.) Look At Yourself in the Mirror… A Lot!
I know it sounds really silly and a lot conceited, but it really does help. The reason it helps is because the longer you stare at yourself, the more often you do it, you’ll begin to notice your minor imperfections. Maybe your nose is slightly too long, or one eyebrow is bigger than the other? Putting yourself down may not seem like the best way to bring your confidence up, but the truth is that most strip clubs have mirrors EVERYWHERE, and we are all constantly reminded of our imperfections. You could be staring at that huge pimple that you know is covered by a million coats of cover-up, but you still think that everyone sees it – and right as you are thinking it, someone asks you for a dance and tells you that you’re the most beautiful woman they’ve seen all night.
BAM! It no longer matters what imperfections you see, because the only one who thinks you look any less than stunning is yourself! That is the biggest key to confidence – realizing that no one is perfect, but you’re the only one holding yourself back.
2.) Stop Asking People What They Think, Dammit!
They’re never going to give you an answer that counts, and know that everyone, whether they are a good friend, fake friend, or co-worker, is going to have something to say about you behind your back. The key is to only give them things to talk about that they are jealous of, because otherwise, you’ll find out about it later and it will only make you feel worse about yourself. Everyone is jealous of everyone, especially in the world of a stripper so the only one who can tell you how incredible you are is…
You guessed it, YOU. Just remind yourself everyday of how amazing you are and don’t rely on others to do it for you, and your confidence will climb at the speed of light.
3.) Your Wardrobe is an Extension of You, So Step Out of Your Comfort Zone!
If you’re building a new, confident you, then old, shy clothes need to stay in the closet sometimes. Maybe you’re just a jeans and converse kind of girl? Or maybe you prefer your pencil skirt and white ruffle-blouse? How about sundresses and strappy flats? FORGET IT.
There’s no way in hell that I’m wearing my NKOTB t-shirt and high-waisted skinny jeans to work!
Grab that dress that you bought at Rue 21 last summer and never had the courage to wear! If only for one day, just step out of your comfort zone and make an appearance that’s just un-you.
4.) Speak Clearly, Look at Them Directly, and Use Your Hands When You Talk.
Every dancer’s secret is this: they know that when you characterize your speaking style, people tend to pay more attention. It has very little to do with what you talk about, and everything to do with how you talk to them. If you’re getting excited, get excited; if you’re getting heated, don’t hide it. Be expressive with your voice, eyes, and hands, and everyone will wonder where this new, outspoken you has come from.
5.) Keep Good Hygiene!!!
I cannot stress enough how important this is, for you and others alike. If you have “stripper-breath” (which is basically, gum/mints, cigarettes, and alcohol, but it just means bad breath) every customer you talk to knows it, the same goes for if you you’re just slightly sweaty from too much time onstage, or running errands without A/C – throw on some body spray every chance you get, because it does wonders for meeting people. Also, if you have really bad morning breath, you tend to feel bad in the morning (I know I do. Yuck.), but if you brush, you feel ten times better. Having a clean, happy body is essential in building confidence in yourself – which is the biggest thing I have to push; building your confidence should be for you, and no one else. Confidence is a way of getting to like yourself a lot better, not so much getting others to like you.
Although, I’m sure there are thousands of teenage YouTubers who have advice for how to be “popular”.
I hope you all enjoy this piece, and I can’t wait to hear how your Inner Stripper looks – so drop me a comment!
See y’all later,
And a super huge shout out to my favourite blogger of all time @ThatCheapBitch, who gave me some awesome advice on how to avoid my consistent writer’s block and ideas for my own blog. THANK YOU!
Also, speaking of confident, beautiful women, I’d like to introduce you all to one of the most fabulous women I know: June Reece. She’s an incredible alternative model with a classiness that just can’t compare. I’ve provided a link so you all can view and like her page on Facebook.